Apr 30, 2008

I hate summer



I cant believe i loved summer when i was a kid.

I was a weird kid. All kids are werid.

Once there were no other kids in the park and i was swinging all by myself for 2 hours straight in the afternoon in the middle of the desert-summer. I was looking at the sun all the time.. trying to make shapes in the bright sunlight each time i opened my eyes.. I could see swords and horses and desert warriors.. i made up my own stories as i kept swinging. The next day i was sick with a sun stroke. I remember vividly smiling myself to sleep thinking about the warriors even as i was sick.

I was a weird kid. summer doesnt seem to affect kids at all. they have buffalo skin. the heat just doesnt get through.

i hate summer now. summer is especially unkind to girls. and specially specially unkind to girls like me with sensitive skin that gets tanned one shade darker every 5 minutes in the sun. its a ridiculous curse. i hate it.. well atleast i know that i have less risk of skin cancer or something.. whatever.. i feel like the kid in the commercial with the sun sucking from a straw at the top of his head... i feel exactly like that.

i want to sit in a tub full of ice cubes. i want to live in a refrigerator. i want to go to the north pole.. or south pole.. or wherever where there's ice. my brain refuses to work and my body refuses to move when its so hot.. i feel dull and sluggish and kind of stupid.. (or maybe that's just regular me.. i dunno :D) ..

yuck yuck yuck.

yuck yuck yuck yuck. stupid sticky summer. yuck yucky summer yuck.

Apr 4, 2008

Extroverts..Introverts





Okay..

Doesn't sound like an interesting topic? Good.. then ur probably an extrovert..

hehe.. just kidding..


So i've done some research in this subject.. and i have some findings.. and findings of any research are not meant to be kept to oneself.. but shared with others.. so here i go..


"An Extrovert is a person who is friendly and outgoing. An Introvert is a shy person. All introverts should strive to become extroverts. "


This, sadly, is what most people understand and believe to be true. It's not their fault. It's the way people are conditioned. Let me share some of my real findings...


Extrovert:

Is indeed a person who is friendly and outgoing. However, there's more to it than just that. The focus of energy for an extrovert is in the outside world, in other words, they are externally- focussed people, energized by being around other people.


Introvert:

An internally-focussed person who is energized by being alone and feels drained of energy by being around other people.



Shyness:

A state of a person characterized by nervousness, apprehension, self-consciousness and a lot of anxiety.



Fact: a shy person may be an introvert, but all introverts are not shy. as a matter of fact, introverts are also not arrogant as often thought to be.


Extrovert vs. Introvert:

1. Extroverts tend to fade when alone and can become bored when there are no people around. An extrovert will talk to someone rather than sit alone and think. Introverts are more concerned with their inner world. They love thinking and exploring their thoughts and feelings.

2. Extroverts tend to think as they speak and think better while they are talking, while introverts tend to think before they speak.

3. Extroverts enjoy social situations and seek them out since they love being around people. Introverts often avoid social events as being around people drains their energy, even if they have good social skills. After being with people for a long time, they need time alone to recharge.

4. Extroverts have several and a wide circle of friends. Introverts need and make friends too, but are very selective about it.

5. Extroverts appear to be more socially skilled compared to introverts. However, introverts exhibit very little difficulty in speaking to known/unknown people when it comes to concepts and issues.


Point to note:

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective. Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.



The Problem:

Unfortunately, our society today, corporate and otherwise, considers the behaviour of an extrovert as the norm against which all other behaviour is measured. While in reality, extroverted behaviour is only a manifestation of the way an extrovert interacts with the world.

It might be a little harsh to say that this may be a form of unrecognized discrimination. However, a subtle discrimination against introverts certainly does exist.



Conclusion:

We must come to realize that introverts are not 'wrong' people, but just people. They come with their own set of talents and unique perspective, as a result of their intrinsic analysis. These talents are as needed as any others for the success of a project/organization. When forced to wear the 'mask of extroversion', they might be sub-consciously drained of their energy, thereby hindering their progress. Just like an extrovert would feel if confined and not allowed to interact with others.



Some famous introverts of our world: Steven Spielberg, Charles Darwin, Albert Einstein, Michael Jordon, Isaac Newton, Princess Diana.


resource:
http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/extrovert.htm
http://giftedkids.about.com/od/glossary/g/introvert.htm